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You might think you have sexy down to a science. But do know what real men actually want in a lover?
Read on to find out
Enthusiasm:
When
it comes to sex, you can get an “A” for effort. Guys want to be with
someone who’s actually into sex and not doing it as a favor or just
going through the motions.
“There is nothing more seductive than
an enthusiastic lover,” says Lou Paget, certified sex educator and
author of The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them
Coming. “That beats out the perfect body or the perfect face anytime. A
man wants feedback that a woman is into doing things with him!”
New Tricks
Men
want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That
doesn’t mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to
ideas.
“Sexual desire is like an appetite,” says Paget. “We all
want to try different flavors -- otherwise we’d get bored eating at the
same place all the time. Men want someone who is willing to explore
unique feelings and new sensations.”
Worried that whatever you do
is suddenly going to become part of your nightly repertoire? Don’t think
of it as a can of worms. Most likely the occasional change-up is all he
needs.
Praise
We normally think of women
as the ones who need reassurance about their appearance, but men get
insecure, too. A lover who will find something to compliment and worship
about her partner will never lack affection from him.
“Every man
wants to know they have that special something that turns a woman on,”
says Paget. “It could be something that turns her head or something like
his intelligence or sense of humor that she finds incredibly sexy.”
Bossiness
It’s
not a cliché, ladies. A man wants a woman who will tell him what to do
-- at least in the bedroom. Most guys will be thankful for a little
instruction, especially if it means they’ll succeed at pleasuring you.
“A
woman who can guide you with sounds or one word responses is preferred
as it takes away the guess work,” says Paget. “Just remember to avoid
acting like a sexual traffic cop!”
Confidence
Men
want someone who will leave the lights on and let him get a good look
at her. Stop worrying about covering up any squishy parts.
“Indirect
lighting is Hollywood’s best friend and it can be yours as well,” says
Paget. “Need I repeat that men are visual creatures and they want to see
their partner? It’s a big part of their turn-on factor.”
Confidence is sexier than anything!
Sex on the Brain
A
woman who keeps sex in the forefront of her thoughts knows how to
inject it into life outside the bedroom -- and that’s sexy. Try sexting
him or be extra naughty and playful in public.
“Do it in a
discreet way,” say Paget. “Let your partner know that you’re thinking
about sex throughout the day. Remember, your brain is your sexual power
source.”
